Category Archives: GENERAL

INDECISION IS AN ILLNESS

Hi there, by now you all know I love FRIDAYS 🙈 so thank God it’s Friyayyy 💃💃💃

I really hope you had a great week, I did because the week went so fine and fast!

OK! Majority of us set some goals to be achieved by the end of 2017 but one way or the other (probably because it was really out of your control or you were limited by external factors) some/few of us could not meet the set goal(s).

But in my search, I discovered that one of the reasons people don’t get to meet their set goals/target is INDECISION 😱

Yes, indecision is a distraction and could be a hinderance to meeting target(s)

We all know what indecision is the state of being unable to make a choice over a very long period of time.

Some didn’t accomplish set goal( for example, someone who planned to get married latest by December 2017, but still has difficulty making up his/her mind to chose one out of all the available suitors/babes) , in this case, he/she obviously wont be able to chose right or achieve this goal by now.

We all could be confused at a point but it is not meant to be for a long time.

Indecision is an illusion, mental illness at that.

People who have difficulty making choices or decide are probably manifesting a symptom of a mental disorder that is being called dependent personality disorder

According to http://www.WebMD.com , and the only recommended treatment for such is a psychotherapy which involves through counseling by experts .

This is few days to 2018, if you do not want to have the same regret(s) this time next year, do the needful. If you need help, seek it! 

It is not enough to set goals, what steps are you taking towards achieving it ? 

We all have the potentials to meet our set targets but we would only be able to perform if we know and tackle our limitations .

Do not allow this weekend pass you by, if you need to let go of some relationships, people, behaviors, attitude etc. Let it go , it is going to be a new chapter/phase/dawn.

Talk to me via ewaadenike@gmail.com 

@thesentnurse on IG/twitter 

Xoxo

Adenike. 

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SET YOUR 2018 HEALTH GOAL

Hi there, thank God it’s Friday!

I anticipated this day really because the week has been so stressful. How are you and how was your week?

So, the year is wrapping up and almost everyone is setting goal(s) for 2018. It is absolutely good because, preparation needs to meet opportunities 💯

But did you set your health goals? We all make plans of things to achieve and heights to reach but we have forgotten that  only the living and healthy can pursue dreams and meet target ✔

When one is not healthy, every other goal really doesn’t matter as all that will matter then would be “Lord I just want to be healed”… Trust me, I have been there! I was preparing for my second to the last exam in nursing school and I was battling with serious migraine headaches 😬 I was trying to read but No way! I was advised to take muscle relaxing and sleeping pills then sleep off  for a whole week 😱

Did I do it? YES… Because my brain couldn’t even comprehend when I was reading!

I forgot about my exams and I faced my health 💯

So, this December include your health goals in the plan.

Is it to eat healthy food all through 2018? Shed some weight to have healthy BMI? Or to start exercising to keep fit? Or to schedule time of rest and breaks to ease stress? Whatever is, set the goal!
Have a pleasant weekend!

 Xoxo

Adenike.

Weekend vibes

Hey peeps, thank God its Friday💃💃💃

I really hope you had a great week? For some of us the week was way too stressful , while some of us had a really calm week.

Either ways, we all should know that as much as we need to hustle/work, there is need for us to take care of ourselves💯

Human resource is the greatest resource any organization could ever need.

Just like engines, if we don’t service our bodies there is probability that we would break down just like an unserviced machined👌

If you and I will function effectively, we must devote the time to renew ourselves physically, spiritually, emotionally, mentally and socially.

According to Stephen Covey in his book (7 habit of highly effective people); sharpen the saw!!!

You are the greatest asset, preserve yourself👌

Even God rested after the creation(Genesis2:3).

This weekend, try as much as possible to renew your strength💪💪

Know that only God can give us the true rest we desire (according to Psalm23:2-3 ” He makes me lie down in green pastures, He leads me beside the still waters. He restores my soul; He guides me in the path of righteousness for His name’s sake” and Psalm 62:1-2 “my soul finds rest in God alone; my salvation comes from Him”)

No matter what, only God crowns our hustle..Psalm127:1-2

may our labors not be in vain in Jesus name.

Have a great weekend😍😍😍
Xoxo

Adenike Oladimeji.

WHEN YOUR GOALS SEEMS UNACHIEVABLE

In 2016 one of the goals I set was that by December 2017 I should be in the US practicing my Nursing and advancing both academically and professionally, but here we are November 2017 and I am not anywhere near the achievement of that goal!

Are you asking what have I done towards the achievement? Well, I have done quite a whole lot of things as required but here I am… In the middle of my thoughts and disappointment, God showed up again.

 I decided to share because I know people used to count their losses/gains, successes/failures towards the end of the year and I know I am not the only one who set a goal I have not been able to achieve. If you are like me, maybe you have not been able to achieve all the goals or part of the goals you set for the year, God said I should tell you what He told me. If you are like me keep reading to the end!

Ok! This generation, we have developed a strong focus on goal setting. Whether physical, mental, spiritual, academically, financially socially, martially etc, most of us have the long list of goals we would like to accomplish.

But so many times our goals are just small portion or tip of what God desires to accomplish in and through us.

Just because your goals/plans are small/failed doesn’t mean that we should not set goals again!

We need to set goals so as to keep ourselves in check, for motivation, to stay focused and to boost our self-confidence.

We all know that an appropriate goal must have the S-M-A-R-T characteristics i.e (Smart, Measureable, Attainable, Relevant and Time bound) and we must write it down, even the scripture sayswrite it down (HABAKUK 2:2-3)

Was my goal SMART? Yes, it was smart but it still failed (at least for this year).

After setting Goals and you are out on track to make sure you achieve it, the followings should be in place too:

– Do not forget that your goals are only achievable when God is involved!

Because, ”unless the Lord builds the house, the builders labor in vain(Psalm127:1)’’ and he said ‘’You can make many plans, but the LORD’s purpose will prevail.(proverbs19:21)’’

Only God can make it happen!

– Spiritual goal should come first, why? Because it opens door of achievement for the other goals set (according to Matthew 6:33’’seek ye first the kingdom of God and its righteousness and all other things shall be added unto you’’).

–  When you set goals, do not forget that you are not the first person to have this kind of goal,seek godly counsel! Some people have been to that place you are just planning to go! (Plans fail for lack of counsel,
but with many advisers they succeed. PROVERBS15:22).

– Diligence — due diligence cannot be over emphasized if your plan must work! ‘’The plans of the diligent lead to profit as surely as haste leads to poverty. PROVERBS21:5’’.

In conclusion, there is no goal that is unachievable with God! Because, with God all things are possible!

If your previously set goals and you have not achieved it, know that all things work together for good (Romans8:28). Know that we can do all things through Christ who strengthens us!

Don’t be discouraged/sad/disappointed, set another goal! Do not allow failure to discourage you from setting another goal. (Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus. PHILIPIANS3:13-14). Forget about your past failures; look ahead to the beautiful reward ahead of you.

Surrender your goals, desires and dreams to him and watch him in awe as He multiplies, expands and increase your influence and impact on this generation!

Allow God to shine His incredible power through us!!!

Remember the above simply can work for those who are in a relationship with Abba!!!

 May your weekend be sweeter than your week….

Rest in Gods promises

Xoxo

Adenike Oladimeji

WHAT IS ON YOUR MIND?

Hello friends, happy new month (it’s my first post in the month). The Lord will grant us our heart desires before the year runs out!

I really got lots of mail about my previous posts in October and I found out that almost everyone set targets but are yet to meet their targets.

Nonetheless, I have a message for you today but first what is on your mind?

The mind according to WIKIPEDIA is a set of cognitive faculties including consciousness, perception, thinking, judgment, and memory.

It is usually defined as the faculty of an entity’s thoughts and consciousness. It holds the power of imagination, recognition, and appreciation, and is responsible for processing feelings and emotions, resulting in attitudes and actions.

Immediately someone wished me happy new month, I started counting my gains/losses, successes/failures and my times of pain/peace… the list is endless! I know I am not the only one having that kind of thought but in the midst of it God’s word ministered to me and I decided to share with you!

You can do/achieve anything if you set your mind on it but most times our mind is set only on material things which are even temporal and when we are unable to achieve those things or meet our earthly targets we get angry/sad/disappointed. Meanwhile, the scripture said “For to set the mind on the flesh is death, but to set the mind on the Spirit is life and peace.”(Romans 8:6)

The above scripture started making a whole lot of sense to me when I saw a lot of my clients struggling to meet target while they are dying gradually ( trying to meet target at work, get promotions and allowances)… they set their mind on flesh but medically death seems to be knocking on their doors. Whereas, if we set our mind on basically on the things of God (spirit), we have assurance of PEACE and LIFE! What more is important than life itself?  NOTHING!

Setting our mind on the things of God will not only give us LIFE and PEACE but also every other things shall be an additional advantage according to Matthew 6:33 ‘’but seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you’’.

The remaining days of the year can still be productive if only we will set our mind on God (Spirit) and seek His will consistently. After all, we as human can only set goals only God can bring them to pass/accomplishment according to Proverbs 19:21, “Many are the plans in the mind of a man, but it is the purpose of the Lord that will stand.” So as we align our hearts and minds with the Lord, then our purpose on earth will not only be clear but successful.

Time has not gone yet, this year can still be productive and if not clear your mind and prepare it for a greater 2018…

 

Lots of love,

Adenike Oladimeji.

 

The Harm of Poor sleep and Stress

Hey guys, I am so happy I am a bit consistent this month (not because I am very free but because I have fallen in love with you more than ever, lol).

Ok! How are you all doing? I am doing pretty good and I am happy it’s friyayyy (I am dancing while writing because it’s another time to have a long sleep and rest).

So I have been writing about maintaining healthy weight since the beginning of the Month and I am happy at the feedbacks you guys are giving me.

Thanks for following the principles; prevention is far cheaper and better than cure.

In case you missed my previous post on BMI/Obesity, being active and knowing your calorie limit, you can check them herehere and here.

Today I am writing about the arm of poor sleep and stress in relation to weight gain.

You know when I started my current 8-5pm job I was weighing 62kg and that was about a year ago but when this month was starting I was 69kg! so saddening and I started checking what the problem could be and it led me to writing this post.

HOW DOES POOR SLEEP INCREASE OUR WEIGHT?

When I was growing up, if I sleep for a long time my mum would be shouting that I will be getting fat and it is true but now not getting enough sleep again causes weight gain! What exactly are we even supposed to do?

Even if you usually eat well and exercise, chronic high stress can prevent you from losing weight—or even add pounds,”

Every time you have a stressful day, your brain instructs your cells to release potent hormones. You get a burst of adrenaline, which taps stored energy so you can fight or flee. At the same time, you get same sudden increase in the production of cortisol, which tells your body to replenish that energy even though you haven’t used very many calories. This can make you hungry…very hungry. And your body keeps on pumping out that cortisol as long as the stress continues.

In that case, when we are under stress, healthy diet is difficult to maintain while under stress and during these periods you know what we crave for??? All manner of  fattening  foods (burger, gala, coke, and so on).

With your adrenal glands pumping out cortisol, production of the muscle-building hormone testosterone slows down. “Over time, this drop causes a decrease in your muscle mass, so you burn fewer calories”.  Cortisol also encourages your body to store fat—especially visceral fat (i.e fat inside the organs) which is particularly dangerous because it surrounds vital organs and releases fatty acids into your blood, raising cholesterol and insulin levels and putting you at risk for heart disease and diabetes.

 

HOW THEN CAN ONE TREAT OR PREVENT THE DANGERS OF STRESS AND POOR SLEEP?

  • EXERCISE- This cannot be over emphasized! It relieves stress. It actually fools your body into thinking you’re escaping the source of your stress,” says Talbott.  Read my post about exercise here. Flex your hands, your legs, take a stroll… Be active!
  • Slow Down During meals- Don’t do meet up! I mean don’t try to eat all the meals you skipped at once.
  • Don’t do Strict Dieting- It increases the level of your cortisol and it makes your blood sugar spike up and then go down. The brain begin to be deprived of sugar( fuel), your hunger centre will be triggered and you might not have a choice than to eat (heavily).
  • If you are craving for something sweet/salty, eat it! You might not do this all the time, give in once in awhile! “Have a piece of chocolate. You will feel better. Just stop at one.” If you have trouble restraining yourself, take precautions so you won’t binge. Buy a single cookie when you’re out instead of keeping a box at home; or keep them in the freezer so you have to wait for one to defrost.
  • Don’t Drink too much of caffeine/coffee when you are under stress- When you combine stress with caffeine, it raises cortisol levels more than stress alone. In one study by the University of Oklahoma, consuming the equivalent of 2½ to 3 cups of coffee while under mild stress boosted cortisol by about 25%—and kept it up for 3 hours. When subjects took 600 mg of caffeine (the equivalent of 6 cups of java) throughout the day, the hormone went up by 30% and stayed high all day long. You’ll experience these effects even if your body is accustomed to a lot of lattes. And because high cortisol levels can contribute to stress eating, you might want to consider quitting caffeine as well.
  • Do not Skip Your Breakfast- eat breakfast that is rich in nutrients (vitamins) and calcium and magnesium. Take fruits and vegetables and do not forget to stay hydrated by drinking enough water!
  • SLEEP!!! It is the greatest stress reliever- “Your body perceives sleep deprivation as a major stressor,” says Talbott.  A University of Chicago study found that getting an average of 6½ hours each night can increase cortisol, appetite, and weight gain. The National Sleep Foundation recommends 7 to 9 hours. As if that weren’t enough, other research shows that lack of sleep also raises levels of ghrelin, a hunger-boosting hormone. In one study, appetite: particularly for sweet and salty foods—increased by 23% in people who lacked sleep. The good news: A few nights of solid sleep can bring all this back into balance and getting enough regularly helps keep it there. Says Talbott, “You’ll eat less, and you’ll feel better, too.”

 

Oh ye workaholics, this is the time to strike a balance!!!

You only live once afterall

 

I care for the total man…

I am Adenike Oladimeji (RN).

xoxo

SILENT FERTILITY KILLER CONT’D

I am honestly sorry for keeping you hanging all these days, there were situations I couldn’t take total control of.

Notwithstanding , I am glad to write today and I hope we conclude this topic today but if not we can do it in the next post.

I really hope you are following me closely or should I just ask if this has been helpful in anyway? About four weeks ago I started talking about silent sexually transmitted diseases that can cause infertility if left untreated, in case you missed the first two posts read it here and here. Chlamydia and gonorrhea are important preventable causes of pelvic inflammatory disease (PID) and infertility and I discussed GONORRHEA in the previous posts. Continue reading SILENT FERTILITY KILLER CONT’D

COPING WITH STRESS IN NIGERIA

TGIF (I am practically dancing and you know why? I am going to get a whole lot of rest)

Hi guys, how are you all doing? if you missed my last post check here

Me I am just trying to be fine because these past few days have been extremely crazy for me!

The stress recently is like the one sent from hell to torment my enemy, lol.

Anyways, I am bouncing out of it with the help of studies and advise from friends.

Anyone living in Lagos and is not working from his/her room knows that the struggle is real!

Yes, stress is unavoidable (at least for some part of Nigeria) but the effect of stress on you and I can be avoided or reduced.

Stress can be beneficial by helping people develop the skills they need to cope with and adapt to new and potentially threatening situations in life.

Even though stress is beneficial ,the beneficial  aspects of stress is going to be less effective  when it is severe enough to overwhelm a person’s ability to take care of themselves and family.

 

 

WHAT IS STRESS EXACTLY?

According to the dictionary (Google) it’s a state of mental or emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse or demanding circumstances.

We all react to stressful situations differently, personally when I am stressed: I get angry, I become so irritable, I feel like quitting, I find it difficult making decisions too.

While some other people react by: Feeling sad, frustrated, and helpless, feeling guilty, disappointed, loss of appetite, poor sleep, alcohol consumption, smoking and  some people even cry.

But we all can cope with stress as long as we identify the cause(s) of our stress and we know what works for us.

Few tips that I just employed recently and they are working are:

  • I take care of myself (if you don’t take care of yourself, who will?)  by eating healthy, well-balanced meals, exercise on a regular basis, I get plenty of sleep especially during my weekend, I give myself a break whenever I  feel stressed out
  • Recognize your own relaxation activities: I like to just lie down, plug my ear piece and listen to good music or watching my favorite soap opera on zee world (lol)
  • Talk to others:  Share your problems and how you are feeling and coping with a parent, friend, counselor, health practitioners, or any spiritual leader/mentor.

I had to do this, I just pasted it on my IG that I need help when I was so stressed and I felt like giving up and people responded by giving me tips.

  • Avoid drugs and alcohol. Drugs and alcohol may seem to help with the stress. In the long run, they create additional problems and increase the stress you are already feeling.

I don’t drink alcohol or smoke but sometimes I just take carbonated drinks because I wouldn’t want to cook or eat proper food.

  • Learn to say no when necessary, not all request or invitation should be honored. You don’t have to attend every event please, whether it is celebration or seminar or conference that is not really necessary, save your strength to execute the things you have learnt so far.
  • Manage your time well, if possible write down your schedule and apportion time where and when necessary. Prioritize, seek help when necessary because the truth is, we cannot do it all alone. If you are a leader, delegate duty to people who can do it. Avoid multi-tasking if not necessary .

 

Take a break when you are ill, don’t wait till you break down. After all, you can’t function maximally/effectively when you are ill and your employer knows that too.

I wish this piece truly help someone, if you find it helpful , kindly share with friends and family.

By now you should know that I truly love you all and I care so much.

Best Regards,

ADENIKE OLADIMEJI.

THINK ON THESE THINGS

Good morning and happy new week…

I hope you had a great weekend? in case you missed my last post, you can check here.

For a long time I used to be a negative person, I mean i always think negativity and I don’t miss out of any of my thought( that  is anything I think about always happen to me).

Be positive because positive minds produce positive lives.

If the devil can successfully take over your mind/thought, he has gained authority over your life.

And you know that, according to” proverbs 23:7 For as a man thinks in his heart, so is he”

Be careful with your thought, spend time to check your thoughts, when things are not going well, pause to ask yourself; what have I being thinking about?

In case you are wondering, what then should i think about?

The word of God tells us what to think about, ” Philippians4 :8 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.”

If the things you are thinking about doesn’t have the qualities mentioned above, you need to change your thoughts….

Meanwhile, what can probably have all the mentioned qualities?( pure, lovely,true,noble,right,admirable,excellent and praiseworthy) .Nothing but the word of GOD

Fill your mind with the word of God and watch your life undergo a drastic turnaround.

Good success is guaranteed by meditating on the word of God…Joshua 1:8 says so ( Keep this Book of the Law always on your lips; meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do everything written in it. Then you will be prosperous and successful.)

Have a wonderful week

Lots of love,

Adenike Oladimeji

THERE IS A RIGHT SIDE OF THE SEA

I was recently studying and the Lord told me that there is a right side of the sea…

The sea here is that BUSINESS, CAREER OR JOB that you have been doing all this while and you are not getting anything!

You have been casting your net, using all your energy, time and money but getting nothing just like peter and co…

The book of  JOHN 21:3-6   

” Simon Peter said to them, “I am going fishing.”

They said to him, “We are going with you also.” They went out and immediately[a] got into the boat, and that night they caught nothing. But when the morning had now come, Jesus stood on the shore; yet the disciples did not know that it was Jesus. Then Jesus said to them, “Children, have you any food?”

They answered Him, “No.”

And He said to them, Cast the net on the right side of the boat, and you will find some.” So they cast, and now they were not able to draw it in because of the multitude of fish.

They were able to catch multitudes of fish because they casted their net to the right side as instructed by Jesus .

Your hustling without Jesus is going to result into nothing, only Jesus knows the right side of the sea/ the business/career/job you are doing.

This is not a message for non Christians alone, it is also for we believers…

We have Jesus, just like Peter and co but Jesus wasn’t involved the night they went fishing and they caught nothing!!!

If you already have Jesus, involve Him in your hustling a, He will direct you on the right side if the sea , the part where you will make gain, and get plenty of fishes.

In case you are wondering that there are so many people who doesn’t involve Jesus and yet they are making gains, Plenty fishes doesn’t necessarily mean money, what of fulfillment, peace and joy  ?

There is a right side of the sea, only Jesus knows…

INVOLVE JESUS FOR MULTITUDE OF FISH…

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LOTS OF LOVE,

ADENIKE OLADIMEJI