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I am honestly sorry for keeping you hanging all these days, there were situations I couldn’t take total control of.

Notwithstanding , I am glad to write today and I hope we conclude this topic today but if not we can do it in the next post.

I really hope you are following me closely or should I just ask if this has been helpful in anyway? About four weeks ago I started talking about silent sexually transmitted diseases that can cause infertility if left untreated, in case you missed the first two posts read it here and here. Chlamydia and gonorrhea are important preventable causes of pelvic inflammatory disease (PID) and infertility and I discussed GONORRHEA in the previous posts. Continue reading SILENT FERTILITY KILLER CONT’D



Hello peeps, thank God its friyay! I am so excited about this coming weekend because I need some rest.

I hope you had a stress-free  week? In case you didn’t , please find time to rest during the weekend because rest is essential if you must function maximally.

I started talking about infertility and its causes last week, in case you missed my last post, you can read it here…

I am going to continue from where I stopped by proceeding to:


The treatment of gonorrhea is strictly by combination of antibiotics. It is very important that you and your partner get treated even if you/your partner is not showing any sign of the infection, so as to prevent re-infection by the carrier.

According to Center for Disease Prevention and Control:  uncomplicated gonorrhea be treated only with the antibiotic ceftriaxone given as an injection in combination with either azithromycin (Zithromax, Zmax) or doxycycline (Monodox, Vibramycin, others) two antibiotics that are taken orally.

Babies who are born by mothers who are with gonorrhea should receive antibiotic eye ointment after birth to prevent eye infection. If infection develops, antibiotics should be given.

NB: do not do self medication, always seek professional medical advise from your health care provider. 

If Gonorrhea is left untreated, the followings are the possible complications:

  • Infertility in women. Untreated gonorrhea can spread into the uterus and Fallopian tubes, causing pelvic inflammatory disease (PID), which may result in scarring of the tubes, greater risk of pregnancy complications and infertility. PID is a serious infection that requires immediate treatment.
  • Infertility in men. Men with untreated gonorrhea can experience epididymitis — inflammation of a small, coiled tube in the rear portion of the testicles where the sperm ducts are located (epididymis). Epididymitis is treatable, but if left untreated, it may lead to infertility.
  • Infection that spreads to the joints and other areas of your body. The bacterium that causes gonorrhea can spread through the bloodstream and infect other parts of your body, including your joints. Fever, rash, skin sores, joint pain, swelling and stiffness are possible results.
  • It increases your risk of HIV/AIDS. People who have both gonorrhea and HIV can easily pass both diseases more readily to their partners.
  • Complications in babies. Babies who contract gonorrhea from their mothers during birth can develop blindness, sores on the scalp and infections.


However, Gonorrhea can be prevented. “Prevention is better than cure” this can not be over emphasized.

some of the prevention includes:

  • Complete abstinence from sex is the most reliable way to prevent gonorrhea. But if you choose to have sex, use a condom during any type of sexual contact.
  • Before the initiation of sexual intercourse with new partner find out whether your partner has been tested for sexually transmitted infections, including gonorrhea. If not, ask whether he or she would be willing to be tested.
  •  If your partner has signs or symptoms of a sexually transmitted infection, such as burning during urination or a genital rash or sore, don’t have sex with that person.
  • Go for regular annual screening if you are sexually active and you are less than 25 years of age and for older women at increased risk of infection, also those who have a new sex partner, if you have more than one sexual partner, or if your sexual partner has a sexually transmitted infection.

    Regular screening is also recommended for men who have sex with men, as well as their partners.

To avoid reinfection with gonorrhea, abstain from unprotected sex for seven days after you and your sex partner have completed treatment and after the symptoms has subsided.

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I wish you a restful weekend.

lots of love.

Adenike Oladimeji (RN).

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HEY darling, I am happy to write to you today… I have been quiet occupied for a while now but I will still make time out to do this as frequent as I can.

I am a nurse and I work in a clinic, I have been privileged to give listening ear to couple of people who have been married for years but have no child/ren.

Some are just waiting on God(miracles) while others are going about seeking medical attention.

One lady told me its been 3 years now they are still waiting on God, I advised her to visit a gynecologist while we continue to wait on God.

She came back after a lot of consultations and laboratory investigations and she told me, the consultant told her that her infertility was as a result of a long-standing infection!

Can you imagine that? NO… a lot of us pay little or no attention to our reproductive system/organs while single which is not supposed to be.

I probed further by asking her about past infections she noticed, she said it was when she was in school… she had a sexual partner who she believed was faithful until she noticed she was having serious itching and burning sensation on her private part, she spoke about it to her friends, they gave her some tablets and cream , the signs/symptoms stopped and she moved on with her life even though she had some discharges but she felt it was normal and she ignored, not knowing she was in some troubles!

Allow me to tell you something about infertility and some silent STDs that can cause it in this post and the next.


WHAT IS INFERTILITY?infertility awareness.png

In my own word: it is the state of inability  to bring forth an offspring or a lack of productivity after one full year of unprotected sex…

It might be from the man/woman… both genders can be infertile! Permit me to talk about female infertility because the society we are in attacks the woman first when it comes to infertility.

Infertility in women can be as a result of either of the below listed causes:

  • Pelvic inflammatory disease.
  • A previous infection.
  • hormonal imbalances
  • Polyps in the uterus.
  • alcohol/drug abuse
  • Endometriosis or fibroid.
  • obesity (being over weight)
  • Scar tissue or adhesion.
  • Stress
  • Chronic medical illness.
  • A previous ectopic (tubal) pregnancy.
  • Thyroid gland prob
  • A birth defect.
  • excess/intense exercise
  • irregular/short menstrual cycle
  • aging(as we age, our fertility decreases).


These and many more can cause infertility, until you visit the Physician, you might not be able to figure it out…


female pelvic

Common infections that causes PELVIC INFLAMMATORY DISEASE and INFERTILITY if left untreated are CHLAMYDIA and GONORRHEA. Untreated, about 10-15% of women with chlamydia will develop PID. Chlamydia can also cause fallopian tube infection without any symptoms. PID and “silent” infection in the upper genital tract may cause permanent damage to the fallopian tubes, uterus, and surrounding tissues, which can lead to infertility. Most women infected with chlamydia or gonorrhea have no symptoms.

Center for Disease Control and Prevention recommends annual chlamydia and gonorrhea screening of all sexually active women younger than 25 years, as well as older women with risk factors such as new or multiple sex partners, or a sex partner who has a sexually transmitted infection.

Lets talk about GONORRHEA: Gonorrhea is a sexually transmitted disease (STD) that can infect both men and women. It can cause infections in the genitals, rectum, and throat. It is a very common infection, especially among young people ages 15-24 years, but anyone who is sexually active can get gonorrhea.


You can get gonorrhea by having vaginal, anal, or oral sex with someone who has gonorrhea. A pregnant mother with gonorrhea can give the infection to her baby during childbirth.


Some men with gonorrhea may have no symptoms at all. However, men who do have symptoms, may have:

  • burning sensation when passing urine
  • A white, yellow, or green discharge from the penis;
  • Painful or swollen testicles (this doesn’t happen in all cases)

Most women with gonorrhea do not have any symptoms. Even when a woman has symptoms, they are often mild and can be mistaken for a bladder or vaginal infection. Women with gonorrhea are at risk of developing serious complications from the infection, even if they don’t have any symptoms.
Symptoms in women can include:

  • Painful or burning sensation when urinating;
  • Increased vaginal discharge (this is why women should know the normal amount and color of the usual vagina discharge)
  • Vaginal bleeding between periods.

Rectal infections may either cause no symptoms or cause symptoms in both men and women that may include:

  • Discharge;
  • Anal itching;
  • Soreness;
  • Bleeding;
  • Painful bowel movements.

You should be examined by your health care provider  if you notice any of the above mentioned symptoms or if your partner has an STD or symptoms of an STD, such as an unusual sore, a smelly discharge, burning when urinating, or bleeding between periods.


I will like to continue in my next post, please watch out for the conclusion.

If you have any question or contribution kindly drop them in the comment section and all will be attended to…

I await you sweet response, questions and contribution…

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lots of love,

Adenike Oladimeji.








Hello friends, it has really been a long while, no excuse I have just been very lazy.

I hope you are well?

I know you will be wondering why I am posting this, but I really need to talk about this.

I met a wonderful man who possess all the standard I have set to see in a man I will like to spend the rest of my life with, Godly: right standing! talk of looks: he is handsome! Intelligence: on point! and what a view….

We became friends, I liked him and its mutual…

Meanwhile, all the while I was in doubt of what my genotype  was because as a Child I was told I’m AA but I later checked by myself and they gave me different types of results at every Laboratory.

 Meeting him, we were talking and he mentioned that He has AS genotype… It was disheartening because we both doesn’t want to take the risk of having SS children in later life…


Long story short, I had to let it go but I must confess: it is really hard. The only assuring thing is that God is good and He will give me the best.

My point is this, the moment that guy proposed to be just friend, ask for the genotype  in case you have AS genotype or in case you are in doubt… or better still be sure of your genotype now even if you are not ready for any relationship…

Guy, if you are so sure you are AS please before you ask that babe out be sure of her genotype.

It was a painful decision to let go but it was a wise one… Mine is not the first case but I really wish singles can avoid heart breaks because of Medical issues.

know where you belong and take cautions…

have a great day.


Do you remember Titilayo? in case you missed the previous episodes, check the part 1   here and the part 2 here.

OK, back to the consulting room… Titilayo and her husband came back after series of diagnostic investigations.

Madam, since when have you noticed those symptoms ? the doctor asked.

“well, I really can not remember vividly but I know it has been a long time . it relieves me after taking medications and I didn’t  cognizance of it, moreover, I was told its normal to have cramps  before or during your period. ” she answered the doctor.

“from all the results and scan, we discovered you are suffering from ENDOMETRIOSIS” the doctor told her. ENDO- WHAT? What is that?


Endometriosis is the abnormal growth of cells (endometrial cells) similar to those that form the inside of the uterus, but in a location outside of the uterus, the doctor explained .

“what could be the cause of that? tell us more doctor” they both requested!

Endometriosis is more common in women who are experiencing infertility than in women who are  fertile , but that doesn’t mean infertility can cause endometriosis. Most women with endometriosis have no symptoms, but few women experience symptoms such as:

pelvic pain that may worsen during menstruation

painful sexual intercourse

Painful bowel movements or urination


Other symptoms that can be related to endometriosis include:

  • lower abdominal pain
  • diarrhea/constipation
  • chronic fatigue
  • irregular or heavy menstruation,

HA!  they both exclaimed… except for the painful bowel movements , I experienced all of the symptoms which i was too busy and brushed it aside, she lamented!

Endometriosis can be one of the reasons for infertility for healthy couples. When laparoscopic examinations are performed during evaluations for infertility, implants are often found in individuals who are totally asymptomatic. If the ovaries and Fallopian tubes are involved, the mechanical processes involved in the transfer of fertilized eggs into the tubes may be altered. Alternatively, the endometriotic lesions may produce inflammatory substances which adversely affect ovulation, fertilization, and implantation, thus it will be hard to conceive.

BUT  what could be the cause of this endometriosis pls? she asked.

The cause of endometriosis is unknown. One theory is that the endometrial tissue is deposited in unusual locations by the retrograde flow of menstrual debris through the Fallopian tubes into the pelvic and abdominal cavities. The cause of this retrograde menstruation is not clearly understood. It is clear that retrograde menstruation is not the only cause of endometriosis, as many women who have retrograde menstruation do not develop the condition.

the moment you noticed one of these signs/symptoms, you should visit your hospital, no pain is normal!

what is way forward? which organ is affected ? what is the treatment?

lets find out in the next post.

meanwhile we have the winner of #500 recharge card @Akande Oukemi.

have a wonderful week ahead…

Adenike Oladimeji








Titilayo woke up one morning with a strong abdominal cramp, she got up, she remembered that her menstrual shed was going to commence today but she wondered why she was experiencing the pain. but because she was going for a meeting scheduled for that morning, she grabbed the remaining pain relief  in her bag, she took it and prepared for work. Soon she forgot she had any pain earlier and she went about her daily activities.

Ten years passed, Titi and her husband remained unbothered about their childlessness but Titi’s mother in law will not allow them to rest. “Titi, I hope you are doing something about this your inability to get pregnant, if you don’t do something in the next six month I’m getting another woman for my son. I will not allow you to destroy this family”… she shouted on top of her voice and left angrily.

Adewale and Titilayo remained silent for minutes before Dewale finally broke the silence “Titi, you know I love you? I am not bothered about mama’s reaction but don’t you think we need to visit the gynecologist? for about five years now we’ve not been making love as we ought to”, I will book an appointment with the doctor this week, she cut in….

Early on that Monday morning, she went to their family hospital to see a gynecologist but she met a long queue and she couldn’t wait because she had a bunch of files to check and sign on her table in the office. she left in a hurry, she forgot about the appointment and she continued her work routine. “Titi, how long will you cherish your job than your marriage? we can’t continue like this, I hope you know?”. Honey, you know I’m working on getting my promotion, let it click and I will now have the time. pls try and understand hunnie.


Few weeks later, Titi got her letter of promotion she has been working hard for… honey, I have a good news for you!” you are pregnant? Demola asked. no now, I have been promoted ” it was obvious that she was happy that evening but her husband was not really excited…..

Titi, can we now book an appointment  with your doctor now that you have been promoted ? she answered immediately. ” why not dear, we will go there, first thing tomorrow morning.

early the following morning they are already in the doctors office. they had conversation with the doctor and he asked them to go for series of test, scan and the likes. shortly the results were ready and they were back in the consulting room where Titi and Demola received the greatest shock of her life….

to be continued….








Hello sweets,
hope you’ve been good? Welcome to July, I wish you a month full of blessings.
Oh yeah, it is very cool to be beautifully cute and pretty in fact, spend money on quality make-up kits/cosmetics, skin care products etc. because your appearance matters.
But more than the pretty face and good physical appearance the society and most especially your future /life partner want to see whose presence you carry spiritually (your spiritual content). How is your spirit and your heart? Are you kind? Do you have values that worth partnering with? How is your character and attitude? Are you a peacemaker or troublemaker?
What’s your quota to your family, community, friends, and your husbands or husband-to-be.?
If you enter the relationship based on your attractiveness only, it can’t sustain you in the marriage. Need will arise for you to make tangible contributions and decisions, meanwhile, men likes a woman they can rub minds with, those that can give meaningful ideas, women with creative and critical thinking.
Get yourself equipped, as you buy cosmetics, get relevant books, learn vocational skills, and be business minded. If beauty alone can sustain marriage, beautiful models, singers, and actresses should be the happiest wives on the surface of earth.
Have ever wonder, why do some husbands divorce their beautiful wives for house maids? Well, from my findings I got to know that most house girls has virtues that most girls/ladies doesn’t have… while they are busy taking care of their skin and pretty face, house girls were in the process of making, of course they don’t have money to beautify the external, but they had strength and skills! They became humble under due and thorough trainings.
We spend hours at the salon/cosmetologist shops as if that’s all that matter! While housemaids make food/snacks and set the table for our husbands and kids…
And to our men, if you are still thinking that a reasonable and ambitious woman will choose a man with six packs/ well-built muscles / nice haircut and a cool face over a man that’s kind, godly, good thinker, hardworking and any other good virtues, then you need to wake up from your dream… not all women cherishes the outward appearance! It fades as you age!
There has to be more to you than your pretty face and sexy shape, babe. Be Equipped!!!
The question we should ask is “what is/are your criteria(s) when considering who to marry?”
Your comments and contributions are welcome….
Do have a lovely week
Adenike Oladimeji


Hey guys, hope you are good? I’ve been good.
Today, I’d be replying these questions I received after my last post.
The questions: “are you really a nurse? And I hope you are not as promiscuous as other nurses?”

i am a nurse
i am a nurse

I’ve heard it couple of times that nurses are this and that, so I am going to be correcting some of our wrong perception about Nurses.
Anyone can be proud or a prostitute, irrespective of who you are or the profession you belong to. A banker/lawyer/engineer etc. can be a prostitute, it’s not about the profession, and it’s about the PERSON…who she is before she became a nurse!
Oh yeah, we were taught the anatomy of the male and female reproductive system, we were taught the preventive methods to avoid unwanted pregnancy but then that’s not a reason to be promiscuous! As a matter of fact in Nigeria today a girl/woman that has never being to any school of nursing knows a lot about the preventions even more than the professionals…
And yes, we go on night duty but how is that related to being promiscuous? I have been on night duty with just a doctor on call and we went about our businesses, we aren’t idle as you think, meanwhile, he is married while I’m single but that doesn’t give room for any sexual acts! Oh am I saying something like that will/has not happen between a nurse and a doctor? No, but that should only tell you that, that kind of person will lie to her husband she is going somewhere and she will go and meet concubine… it is not the profession, it’s the PERSON! Stop tagging NURSING! STOP TAGGING ALL NURSES, TAG THE PERSON! She is HERSELF before she became a nurse!
I am a nurse, but I am EXCEPTIONAL!!!
Real men marry nurses… we make good and supportive wives, caring mothers, great in-laws and loving friends!
Next time you hear a man saying that nurses are promiscuous, tell him/her that it’s not the profession, it is the person!!!
Nurse are great,
Nurses are caring,
We care for the total man!
Nurses care for patients but who cares about Nigerian Nurses?

Nurse Oladimeji
Nurse Oladimeji

Nurse Oladimeji


Hey guys, I hope you are have been good?

Quite a number of people offended me while I was growing up, I was abused physically and emotionally, verbal abuse was not left out too! But mehn, I don’t live in that corner again, I’m restored! Do you want to be restored? FORGIVE THEM AND MOVE ON!!!Forgive

It is true that that an abuse (whether physically, verbally or emotionally) is painful and it’s not easy to let go or forgive.

Yes, it was painful (we know) but you can’t continue to hold them in your heart.

A group of eminent physician said “the two emotions that contribute most to physical illness are ANGER and UNFORGIVENESS, because over time they release toxins into your body and they start eating you up !there is freedom

Meanwhile, unforgiveness hinders the flow between you and God. As it is written in “Mark 11:25- if you hold anything against anyone, forgive him so that your father in heaven may forgive you”. If you remember the countless of times God has forgiven you, it won’t be difficult for u to forgive others. They offended you, yes! If it’s possible (if they are within reach and still alive) :

  • Talk to them at the right time, right place and right approach
  • Don’t revenge… revenge is of the Lord! Let God worry about the wrongs you have suffered.
  • Let it go… don’t dwell on it, God will handle them as He handled Job’s friends that abused him…don’t quench your life in bitter feuding, live renewed in love and joy!
  • Pray for them! ( hard abi? U think) yes it is difficult, God will give you strength to do so. Pray for those that offended you, I tell you it’s one of the sure way to be restored! Job was an example “Job prayed for his friends and he was restored, yes he got back in two folds of what he used to have! Job42:10”

Many are sick and their diseases can’t be diagnosed medically, unforgiveness and bitterness resides in the nook/cranny of their heart. Let it go!

Take time out this weekend and have a blast!


                                    Yours truly,

                                    Adenike Oladimeji




Hey sweeties, trust you’ve all been good! I’m doing great too(thanks for asking *winks)….
I don’t know if you have ever thought of it before? Well, here is one of my thoughts inspired by a story in the bible.
For a long time I used to think of what really keeps a man or what makes a man stay glued to a woman? For some time I thought a good physique and a sexy/hot body will do the magic and I reduced my meal, did work outs but mehn it didn’t work!
At a point, I thought hot sex will make him man stay( I AM BEING REAL HERE) and I tried even when sex was not convenient /sweet, even when I knew it was a sin( because my body is the temple of God), yet several relationships failed! Even if you give it to a man hot, it doesn’t keep them it will only take some time to let go and that’s when he meets a very bad girl again.
Again I thought having a baby for a man will make him stay, but then my eyes were opened to see single mothers around without a responsible man to care for them and their babies!
Then, my quest on how to keep a man continues until I studied Jacob, Leah and Racheal ( the book of Genesis29:15-35)
Jacob saw Racheal and loved her to the extent of serving her father for 7 years to have Racheal, in fact the 7 yrs looked like 7 days to him just becs he was in love…after 7 yrs he was betrayed by his father in-law who gave him Leah instead of Racheal… Jacob SLEPT with Leah( on wedding night, thinking it was Racheal) and he was not satisfied, He had to serve another 7 yrs to have Racheal , after the 7 yrs he slept with Racheal and his love for Racheal increased after the SEX!
Leah thought having heirs/sons for Jacob will make him love her and of course God was on her side, she was very productive while Racheal was barren buh nah Jacob loved Racheal to the point of death and even after death….
If sex could keep a man, prostitutes should be happily married but we know most ain’t!
In my own view/thought…SEX/BABY doesn’t keep a man except the man loves you and the man wants to be kept!!!
Lemme know what you think on this… what really keeps a man?
Feel free to comment, like and share
Oladimeji Adenike